On the radio a couple of weeks ago, they were some dating advice piece. What to do and not to do etc. Then they said something to the effect that your significant other needs you the very most when you are fighting. I kind of blew it off because when I am mad, I don't want to sit and fight, talk to the person, or anything. I want to be left alone to clean or work out or something to blow off my steam and then I am good. If I am still a little perturbed, then I will talk to my significant other and we work it out. Then, I made Will frusterated (he told me I don't make him mad ever, just frusterated (ha ha ha)). He was kind of steaming and I was really torn up about it. I was apolagizing profusely and about two seconds later, he says, "I love you and it is okay." Amazingly enough, I felt a ton better. Then a few days later, Cole was driving me insane with his whining, screaming, and back talk. I screamed at him to go to his room and wait for me. He had better not come out until I say. (I have never yelled at him like that and I have never sent him to his room before.) He quickly ran to his room and shut the door (he knew I meant business). A few minutes later, when my sanity came back, I went in there to talk to him. He looked so sad. He says, "Mom, are you happy with me?" It really broke my heart that he was so upset. I told him yes, hugged him and we talked. The rest of the day, we were on great terms. That incident brought me back to the commment on the radio. It was absolutely right! I never would have thought about that on my own and I didn't even beleive it when I heard it but put into action, it is spot on. I have since used this advice when dealing with dicipling my children and next time Will and I are in a tiff, I will also use it. You all probably know and incorporate this into your lives but just incase you don't, give it a try. This is why they say not to leave when you are angry. It may not matter to the angry one, but the one the anger is directed to, it tears them up. If it doesn't, then you may want to do some work on the relationship. You should care when you hurt or are being hurt by someone you love.
